I have been noticing quite a bit of articles and posts dedicated to the “outrageous prices” that wedding professionals charge. In one of them we were even compared to vultures and ambulance chasers. Yikes! I would be offended if it weren’t just so absurd.
This kind of thinking comes from a variety of things but the most basic is just plain ignorance.
Now, I’m not calling Brides stupid – they (and their families) just do not know the time and expense we go through to perfect our craft, the family events we miss because we are working, the times we should have gotten workman’s comp because we bit our tongues so hard it almost came off! They are thinking about this beautiful wedding and end up having sticker shock.
So here is an open letter to all Brides and Grooms:
To Brides, Grooms and their families:
I know you have been dreaming of this wedding since you were old enough to hold a barbie. Wedding professionals want to help you get everything you want out of that day. We work hard to anticipate any and all opportunities to realize your vision. We have spent thousands of hours and dollars perfecting our skills so we can catch that perfect picture as the sun is setting, recreate your parents 6 tiered wedding cake, make your guests feel like VIPs, and ensure that you and your groom are guests at your own wedding. We take our job seriously because we know that this day will only happen once. These are memories that will be emblazoned in your mind forever and we are honored to just be a part of it.
We are artists. We are creating a masterpiece for you and want you to be overwhelmed with awe. THIS is what is in our minds; not, “How can I get every dollar possible out of this client.” There truly is a difference between ordering a birthday cake and a wedding cake. Wedding photography the day of the wedding only accounts for 10% of what the photographers actually spend on your pictures. Wedding planners spent hundreds of hours creating contingency plans for every possible emergency just so you don’t have to. We work hard because this is our profession – our career – our calling.
Please remember, when you start to get started on your budget. Be realistic. Develop a list of your priorities. If you want Micheal Angelo’s “David” in the form of an ice sculpture, be prepared to pay for it. Most likely, you will be able to find a vendor in your price range. There are millions of us out there just waiting to be called up. But do not be surprised, angry or downright rude that we charge what we are worth. If white orchids are not a priority for you, go with daisies. The florist will be just as happy to help you create your look in your budget.
Do not be upset that we don’t have prices on our websites all the time. It is hard to quote a person a set charge when there are so many varying details to take into account. Do not be angered when we ask what your budget is upfront either. We need to know if you are looking for a simple elegant affair for 10 or a big Kardashian blow out for 500. We aren’t being rude or trying to see if you are worth accepting as a client. We are skilled enough to know once we hear your budget what vendors will help you best, what look you can afford and steer you away from anything you can’t.
Wedding professionals are just that – professionals. Of course we are not vultures. Most Brides come to US, thrilled to have an expert who understands their vision and passion. Just think about that $6 Starbucks coffee you drink, the coach purses you buy; or the Jimmy Choo’s you salivate over. Why would someone pay that kind of money for a coffee, purse or shoes?
Because they are worth it.
And so are we.
Remember, we are here if you need us and look forward to serving you.